I Guess I’m Disgusting
According to this article, I am disgusting.
If you don’t have the time to click over and read this article, let me give you the run down. It was written by some skinny bitch who:
1) Hates fat people
2) Has never been fat in her entire life
Her article, which I will try to recap first without bias, is basically meant to be a discussion on the TV show Mike and Molly and whether or not it is uncomfortable to watch intimacy between two plus-sized people.
This article really is horrific from the start. Take the title for example:
Should Fatties Get a Room? (Even on TV?)
I think it speaks for itself how far downhill this article goes after that.
“My initial response was: Hmm, being overweight is one thing — those people are downright obese! And while I think our country’s obsession with physical perfection is unhealthy, I also think it’s at least equally crazy, albeit in the other direction, to be implicitly promoting obesity! Yes, anorexia is sick, but at least some slim models are simply naturally skinny. No one who is as fat as Mike and Molly can be healthy. And obesity is costing our country far more in terms of all the related health problems we are paying for, by way of our insurance, than any other health problem, even cancer.“
The show promotes obesity? Really? Perhaps the network decided to put a show on about REAL PEOPLE. At least some slim models are simply naturally skinny? Did you ever think that many of the folks that are obese ARE NATURALLY OBESE? She makes comments that Mike and Molly are not healthy- does she know that for a fact? How much is it costing our country- where are her facts? Proof? She is obviously a novice journalist.
“So anyway, yes, I think I’d be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other … because I’d be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room — just like I’d find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine addict slumping in a chair.“
There are a lot of things that gross me out, but I am not so rude and cruel to write about them. IN MARIE CLAIRE nonetheless.
“But … I think obesity is something that most people have a ton of control over. It’s something they can change, if only they put their minds to it.”
ARE YOU KIDDING ME???? Many obese people CANNOT control it- there are many that have medical conditions that cause it not to mention hereditary dispositions. It is not always mind over matter. I really want to slap her.
“(I’m happy to give you some nutrition and fitness suggestions if you need them — but long story short, eat more fresh and unprocessed foods, read labels and avoid foods with any kind of processed sweetener in them whether it’s cane sugar or high fructose corn syrup, increase the amount of fiber you’re getting, get some kind of exercise for 30 minutes at least five times a week, and do everything you can to stand up more — even while using your computer — and walk more. I admit that there’s plenty that makes slimming down tough, but YOU CAN DO IT! Trust me. It will take some time, but you’ll also feel so good, physically and emotionally. A nutritionist or personal trainer will help — and if you can’t afford one, visit your local YMCA for some advice.)”
What the holy hell was the purpose of this condescending paragraph (and what the hell is with the parenthesis around the whole thing?)?? If you haven’t already stuck enough knives into my heart (through all my layers of fat) you want to give me ADVICE on how to lose weight? She says “Trust me.” Why should I trust someone who has NEVER been fat a single day in their life? Is she a trainer or nutritionist or is she just another skinny bitch at the gym making the rest of us feel awkward? If you read Maura Kelly’s bio you will see that it appears she had to overcome anorexia. You would think she would have the common sense to understand how damaging writing an article like this could do to someone’s self-esteem.
To sum it up, this is the most degrading, hurtful and awful piece of crap writing I have ever come across. While a small part of me appreciates her not holding back, and holy shit, there was no holding back on her disdain for large people; I would think as someone who has the opportunity to freelance for a publication like Marie Claire, she should know (if she were at least remotely professional) that she has a sense of responsibility to write something with a little more class. Something that doesn’t further shatter the self-esteem of plus-sized women across the world.
I have discussed my struggles to lose weight after having my son. I have a stubborn 10lbs that will not leave me despite, oh what is it that she suggests? “Eat more fresh and unprocessed foods, read labels and avoid foods with any kind of processed sweetener in them whether it’s cane sugar or high fructose corn syrup, increase the amount of fiber you’re getting, get some kind of exercise for 30 minutes at least five times a week, and do everything you can to stand up more — even while using your computer — and walk more.” Oh yes. I have tried those things and more, and let me tell YOU Miss Kelly: When you don’t see the results after 2 years of busting your ass, it is pretty easy to give up.
Say what you want Maura Kelly about how fat and disgusting I am- at least I am married and have a child with an amazing man who loves me JUST AS I AM. So… tell me again? How’s that single life treating you?